From have you tried
this IVF specialist? You know you must. He/ She hasn’t disappointed anyone, you
know. Concerned family and friends gave many suggestions. Some suggested homeopathy
and some suggested Ayurveda (yes, we even went to Old Delhi hakim). Some overly concerned ones even suggested a 90+
year old STD doctor who attributed my infertility to a sexual disease which
either Sumit or I might have acquired before marriage. We had to literally
escape the old doctor before she could make us do weird things.
I know family and friends around are concerned if a couple doesn’t
procreate after 3 years of marriage. After 5, they think it is their birthright
to give unsolicited advice. No matter how concerned, I feel people around an
infertile couple must realize that it is a highly sensitive issue. If they need
your advice, the couple will probably ask for it. Till then, keep your precious views
to yourself.
The other thing about advice is that no one really
understands till the person goes through the experience. There are only a
handful of people who learn from others’ experience. For example, I never
realized how critical it is to have kids early in life while you still have the
energy and earning capacity, and so do your folks. Children need a lot of your
energy and given the current jobs, traveling, and unhealthy lifestyles, the earlier, the better. As we
reach the disturbing end of 30s, it become a herculean task to manage the little
things, and especially in today’s day and age where you want to do everything
right.
That apart, whenever someone asks me for the best IVF
specialist around. I always tell them the one who worked for me is the best for
me but may not be true for you.
